Dating the last 4 months

I came to the realization that Mr. Hong Kong and I have only been broken-up for four months.... and unfortunately I sent him an email today....just saying a happy belated birthday and hoping he was well. I'm so stupid.

I then immediately messaged my bff in Seattle telling her what I'd done. Here's how some of that conversation went:

BFF: I told you that this wasn't going to be easy....and that it was going to be hard.

Me: I know. You're right, as always. It's not like I expected to break up with "Mr. Hong Kong", turn the corner and find prince charming. But at least someone who is local, not a workaholic, not creepy/sleezy and wants to get to know more than my bra size

BFF: I know... but it doesn't make it easy that the other guys weren't even half decent

Me: Seriously. my "1st date"...well we've talked about him plenty. Then there was the teacher and the Canadian who both just disappeared. Mr. CT who looked like things were going well before *poof* The guy in SoCal who is only interested in sex. The Chicago guy who wanted me to fart on him. And now the "local" lawyer who doesn't know when he'll be leaving Tokyo.

BFF: I am trying not to laugh, because of how you put it but you should write a book! hahahah

Me: AND THAT'S ONLY IN THE LAST FOUR MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!

BFF: I know! hahaha

.....(later on in the conversation).....

Me: Oh. and I forgot about the Australian who, even though we both were emailing just as friends (because of the distance) - just stopped emailing. And then there is the guy from the UK who couldn't stop complimenting me (but in that way of weirdness) "Me: What's the weather like. Him: Rainy but it'd be sunny if you were here beautiful." WTF? Where do I find these guys?! And don't get me started on the ones who hit on me in person around town.

...(even later on)...

BFF: Ever thought of taking the sex people up on their offer? ...Maybe you need something without any ties... just have some fun.

Me: Yea but guys in Portland are (for the most part) gross and i honestly have no idea how or where to even beginning thinking let alone doing something like that. I can't get a guy to buy me a cup of coffee let alone take me home for the night.

Oy vey. I just get so frustrated with the whole dating process. I wish I could just shut the part of my brain off that desires a relationship. I wish I knew how to just pick up men in a bar and slip out the next morning before . I wish I knew how to shut down emotionally and not need or want a partner/companion. I wish this how thing was just easier.

Vacation Accomplished

This weekend (despite having the category of "work") was wonderful. I definitely don't get away as often as I need or should...so this was a much needed vacation.

I love driving to the coast and seeing all the cute farm houses

Everything is just sooooo GREEN!

Stopped and had lunch at Camp 18 Restaurant and Logging Memorial

Decided I was going to take the example of the Camp Cat -
and use this weekend to relax.

So I made sure to have a good time with my student government folks (they're a wonderful group), went to the beach, Seaside Aquarium, and ate yummy food.

I just loooooove the grassy sand dunes on the way to the water.

Seaside Aquarium - privately owned since 1937

Yes, That would be me...and a huge octopus at the bottom

Fed the seals - he'd splash if you took too long

Fried garlic artichoke hearts from McKeowns

Stopped by Jim Dandy's Farm Market on the way home too -
got many yummy veggies

So glad to have a mini-get-away.....now back to work.

MUCH needed Vacation

It's not even 3:30PM on Thursday and I'm already in "Vacation-Mode" and so ready to get to Seaside.

Okay, so it's not a real vacation...I'm going to the coast this weekend for work. A meeting (basically) all day Saturday and then Sunday morning....

HOWEVER!!

Saturday evening I'm planning on dining at (what looks like) a great Southern/Creole restaurant called Lil' Bayou

and then Sunday afternoon going to the Seaside Aquarium.

And you better believe I'm getting as close to snuggling these faces as they'll let me:

So while there is work involved at least I'll be squeezing some beach time in there too.

Guest Blogger

Guess who was featured on Jess Barnes' blog Life...Live It!...........?

ME of course!!

Check it out here

She's also on twitter @Jess_Barnes

Catcalling

Okay putting aside any feminist agenda and degrading qualities of the entire idea can someone explain "catcalling" to me?

I don't mean WHAT so much as the WHY.

Why do people whistle, hoot or call out to passerby? 

What's the purpose? 

What do you think is going to happen?

I don't know about you but I don't think I know anyone whose love story begins with "Well there I was walking down 5th Ave when Joe whistled at me from the scaffolding on the building he was constructing".

Yesterday a man standing at the MAX station whispered "Hey Cutie" ...although creepy and not appealing at least this scenario could pan out more to an actual conversation than the man who honked his horn at me and did that stupid head nod thing. I mean even if I was interested how am I supposed to respond?

I just don't get it.

What's the point?