tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post3378793055408227965..comments2024-03-08T22:12:50.476-08:00Comments on Surviving 20-Something: Patterns.Ms. Morganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05330713512145615495noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-81547691982079496672011-08-03T08:56:40.844-07:002011-08-03T08:56:40.844-07:00Be picky! :-) New follower over from http://ariell...Be picky! :-) New follower over from http://arielle-ellesentries.blogspot.com/Ariellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11717492873810996635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-47112197095283149952011-08-02T12:43:03.367-07:002011-08-02T12:43:03.367-07:00BE PICKY! {note- it doesn't sound like you'...BE PICKY! {note- it doesn't sound like you're being too picky} We have to guard our hearts, and never settle.<br />Portland has slim pickins when it comes to respectable guys. So many trendy hipsters looking for that stick thin girl! {I live in P-town too} But I do believe that there are good ones out there!!<br />I agree with Abi concerning self help books... they often make you all the more anxious {at least they did for me}. Don't dissect the situation too much. Do what makes you happy. And if Mr. CT does that, than awesome! <br />Your Prince Charming is out there!<br />xoxo<br />HappyWifeAmberDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13712699659986096125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-66067723337653864012011-07-31T23:11:19.169-07:002011-07-31T23:11:19.169-07:00Don't settle unless you're really happy.
n...Don't settle unless you're really happy.<br />not worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-67438811625672801402011-07-29T21:19:44.138-07:002011-07-29T21:19:44.138-07:00So I thought about this all day. And here's th...So I thought about this all day. And here's the thing. Patterns are not necessarily bad patterns. They exist for reasons. Sometimes those reasons are outdated, sometimes not. I think, for me, the important thing to ask about patterns is always, what do I get from them? I have a lot of dating patterns (well, I assume I'd still have them if I were dating) and they're different from yours, sort of, but I was imagining why I might have those particular patterns. <br /><br />1) If I had some questions about my own romantic viability, no matter how ill-founded those questions were, a person who fell hard for me would be easy to fall hard for. It's very seductive to have someone throw themselves all in like that. (In actuality I think people who fall hard for me are probably crazy and can't imagine why they'd want to, so I may be way off base, but you see the process)<br /><br />2) Long distance is a lot about emotional intimacy, less about physical intimacy. If I were more comfortable with emotional intimacy, for whatever reason, that might be comforting. I have gone through times where I was. . .re-evaluating how I saw myself as a physical and sexual person, and my subconscious let me know in various ways that physical intimacy was the wrong thing at that time. So. . .maybe the pattern is a way of your brain telling you it's still figuring things out. <br />But! CT is a lot closer than Hong Kong, so maybe you're closer to being ready to break the pattern. <br />Also, I see nothing less-painful about a broken long distance relationship, so I don't think you're running from emotional pain, and I don't see a problem with Mr. Seems Like a Good Idea. You never know when getting into something easy will lead to true love. I know this for sure. <br />I'm not sure if any of this makes sense. I am very much asleep.Coryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14441162435521737044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-43524800779874334582011-07-29T13:09:01.097-07:002011-07-29T13:09:01.097-07:00You're not too picky, honey! Hang in there......You're not too picky, honey! Hang in there...Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00828323806416038518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-87938383292710678012011-07-28T13:21:47.249-07:002011-07-28T13:21:47.249-07:00I wouldn't be TOO concerned about it. Part of...I wouldn't be TOO concerned about it. Part of the reason self help books sell is because they make people anxious about their lives, after all. The only thing that really matters is what you really desire from a relationship. If you want someone to hold you, to get ice cream with on a whim, to hold your hand on long star lit nights then quite simple a long distance relationship isn't going to fill those desires and you might want to look for something locally. However, if you are willing to postpone those and are more interested in focusing on emotional connection and building intimacy through communication then there isn't any reason to avoid long distance relationships. Love can hurt just as much whether it's across the street or across the country. I've been reading Add More ~Ing To Your Life by Gabrielle Bernstien to help me deal with my fears around career, and I highly recommend it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-73167494795321061752011-07-28T11:28:14.253-07:002011-07-28T11:28:14.253-07:00You're not too picky. Dating is hard, bad patt...You're not too picky. Dating is hard, bad patterns or not. Sure some of them are unhealthy but there's also reasons we date similarly type guys sometimes. They're into the same things we are, same passions and interests. Some things just go hand in hand.Iz Originalshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03391785004743396469noreply@blogger.com