tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post2194285096867142366..comments2024-03-08T22:12:50.476-08:00Comments on Surviving 20-Something: "Emerging Adulthood" (or a Reflection on a NYTimes Article)Ms. Morganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05330713512145615495noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-24901306062107547852010-08-22T17:29:32.613-07:002010-08-22T17:29:32.613-07:00counting high school, I'm good on all 5! Wow!...counting high school, I'm good on all 5! Wow! they think I'm an adult? that's hillarious!Ravennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-21015662780467300722010-08-20T17:10:07.672-07:002010-08-20T17:10:07.672-07:00Well, according to them I'm good on 1, because...Well, according to them I'm good on 1, because I'M counting highschool LOL... DEFINITELY good on 2, now I can safely say I have 3 under arm as well with my new job, and no on the later 2 so I'm 3/5 complete LOL<br /><br />I think everyone has different circumstances as to what will make them an adult, for me.<br /><br />1. is STRUGGLING, not having everything handed to you, having that experience of living paycheck to paycheck, eating a "mustard and mayonaise sandwhich" because that's all you have in the cabinet or a cup of ramen... no it's not healthy for that to be your diet, but I know so many people who never had to do that and they don't appreciate what they have near as much as I do<br /><br />2. living alone and paying my own rent and food and bills of all kinds<br /><br />3. having a car that >>I<< paid for, not one that was handed to me<br /><br />4. learning to let go of the past and the things I've done and the things that have been done to me and know that it's okay to forgive but you don't have to forget everything<br /><br />5. finding an inner peace and being "ok" with yourself even if you're the only one who is single out of all of your friends.<br /><br />I am 24 and I have soooo much growing to do still, who knows when I'll consider myself a true adult, I think I'm getting there tho, I'm a lot closer than I was 3 years ago, or even 1 year ago.<br /><br />I'd love to settle down and have a family, but I want to make sure it's done right, I want to be married and be able to support us both and have him be able to support us both too just incase something happens to one of our jobs, and I don't want kids that I can't afford.<br /><br />I don't WANT my life to be easy, I'd like a little help here and there sure, but what do I learn with an easy life? I wouldn't be the guy I am today without the past and present I've been given but not neccesarily asked for!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8832683104618206646.post-54399916712857445872010-08-20T11:00:09.806-07:002010-08-20T11:00:09.806-07:00This reminds of the comment I heard this morning o...This reminds of the comment I heard this morning on the radio. The topic was children and how some 20-30 year old women are waiting to have children but feel pressured despite their internal desires. The comment was along the lines of "some people grow up, become adults and THEN have children...some people have children and then are forced to grow up and become adults, learning life's lessons along the way through trial and error." I think these milestones although somewhat ideally socially are not any measure of adulthood. Some of the most mature decisions one can ever make is to delay marriage and/or children until they are ready both emotionally and financially. We shouldn't feel that in order to be big kids now we need to have a ring and a family on the way, without the necessary foundation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com